tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8538280487490391860.post263082407996130095..comments2023-07-02T03:31:21.891-04:00Comments on Redstocking Grandma: Emma: Mother's Day 1986Mary Jo Kochhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16524455433248282100noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8538280487490391860.post-9960327422891614592007-10-08T11:06:00.000-04:002007-10-08T11:06:00.000-04:00Beck,My placid children were no less challenging. ...Beck,<br><br>My placid children were no less challenging. For years I considered Elizabeth, my second daughter, much easier, But she had carefully observed Vanessa and realized charm works much better than confrontation. When asking for something, she would preface it with compliments and appreciation. I would be eager to do what she asked.<br><br>Elizabeth was almost grown before I realized that she had gotten her way much more than Vanessa had. She is the ultimate iron fist in a velvet glove. I was in awe how she handled doctors and nurses whenever my mom was hospitalized. Both Andy and I have named Elizabeth to be our health proxy.<br><br>Once, when her dad and I were squabbling, Elizabeth suggested, "Mom, you should wear more perfume."<br><br>I love your blog title. I must have read aloud the Frog and Toad books a thousand times. I have already started reading them to Nate.Mary Joanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18288602822913669121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8538280487490391860.post-41819484580671748652007-10-08T09:02:00.000-04:002007-10-08T09:02:00.000-04:00My Vanessa stories have always been a great comfor...My Vanessa stories have always been a great comfort to other mothers of challenging daughters. At 2 she was the terror of the Upper West Side and Chelsea because she pulled hair and dumped sand over her playmates' head. Her main victim is her best friend; in fact Erin lives in the next building. Because Vanessa was such a sparkplug, no kid avoided her. The hairpulling and sand dumping was often an experiment in determining the limits of her victims' mothers. Sporadically, I contemplated paying another kid to retaliate. When Vanessa was a teenager, Erin's mother confessed she expected Vanessa to be in jail at age 16.Mary Joanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18288602822913669121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8538280487490391860.post-50185279636468369502007-10-08T07:59:00.000-04:002007-10-08T07:59:00.000-04:00I feel like forwarding this post to every mother I...I feel like forwarding this post to every mother I know who is going through a rough time with their teenaged daughter. She sounds like a great person.Beckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.com